you suffer from low self-esteem?
This site will help you understand
what is involved in raising your self-esteem and presents
a positive program to achieve it.
self-esteem is possible and achievable.
Self-esteem is a central theme of
Dr. Stanley J. Gross' work as a teacher, writer, and psychotherapist.
He is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Quincy,
MA and Professor Emeritus of Counseling Psychology, Indiana
State University, Terre Haute. His new book, "Pathways
to Lasting Self-Esteem" is about his approach to this important topic.
The focus here is on making an enduring impact on low self-esteem
Lasting self-esteem is the emphasis here rather than the
shifting momentary judgments often made about self-esteem
following affirming or discouraging life events. By focusing on
such topics as persistent self-care, facing fears, building skills,
and slowing reactivity, we single out the deeper work required for
an enduring impact on self-esteem. This is distinguished from the
superficial manipulations commonly ineffective in having a lasting
effect. Positive affirmations as well as injunctions to revise negative
beliefs about oneself rarely survive more than a day or two.
Nor do most current approaches to low self-esteem address the
habitual nature of the negative thinking and action involved in
Though I acknowledge the tenacity of low self-esteem, I affirm
that much can be done to raise it. Responding to the many
"how to do it" questions I have heard, this approach
to self-esteem offers practical guidance in a skill-oriented pathway for the
journey. This route to positive self-esteem recognizes four
levels of development beyond low self-esteem. It features distinct
dilemmas, goals, tasks, and skills for each level. The program
provides an accessible way to reduce confusion by suggesting a
menu of concrete actions. It offers hope to counter despair, and
safe options to offset fear.
Having seen this approach work, I am optimistic about the possibilities
for change and the existence of choice. Having seen struggle,
I am also cautious about the potential pitfalls, snares, and
delusions. What follows can be exciting, scary and satisfying,
it can also be the most important work anyone can ever do.